"I find it difficult to equate submission with feminism. Do explain?"So I replied trying my best. Though I'm not sure how articulate I was. My hurried reply then was,
"Thank you for your interest.It got me thinking again about this subject. I was surprised to find that the last time I wrote about feminism on here was in 2008. It started an interesting discussion and you can read it again here.
I like powerful women. I believe in women's equality. I don't believe that certain jobs should be done by men and others by women. I think that men should play a more involved role in bringing up children. So I may be considered a feminist myself.
My sub has been a very strong and active feminist throughout her life.
Yet she chooses to submit to me.
It is her choice.
She is a strong woman and it is my use of her strength that enables me to control and use her. I would not want a doormat."
There are feminists who write about BDSM and submission. (Kind readers may help me out by offering some links!) I don't believe they are incompatible at all. However I do know feminist sub friends who have found it difficult. They have felt at times as if their submission to a man was almost a betrayal of the struggles of feminists in the past in their demands for equality.
On a simple level of course D/s is not always M/f. There are of course probably as many F/m, F/f and M/m relationships.
Though that does not necessarily answer the problem for a submissive feminist within a M/f relationship.
It has come to the fore in discussions in the media recently. Some D/s literature and films have become almost mainstream and this has become a point of interest. There is an article in Newsweek here which discusses it. It includes a short passage which does address the issue in terms of feminism.
Is it an issue which readers have trouble with? Do I have many feminist submissive readers? More to the point, I wonder if I have many feminist Dom readers?